hapa love
i thought metamanda's post on this was truly insightful and funny. (this means, go read it now before you read the rest of my post)
one thing i wanted to add was the backlash of hate from certain types of asian guys (and some parents) against asian girls that are dating white boys.
i was reminded of this because i'd chosen this particular day to read the blog of someone i truly despise. in one of his older entries he'd commented that asian girls that claim to have grown up in their heritage and despise it are hypocrites (and other distasteful things i refuse to write into my blog). this is also the person that has a huge complex about being an asian male and thus chasing away asian girls and everyone else hating him.
i would just like to take this moment to say to asian boys of this type.... i find you despicable. not my culture. :)
anyway... so i've had a lot of harsh words or weird looks from dating someone that is "not of my culture." basically meaning: they don't look like us, you weirdo.
questions like "don't you think your children will be confused to have two different ethnicities and cultures warring in their brains?"
pretty much ignoring the fact that i have two cultures warring in my brain without any external indication that this is happening. i would think at least if i LOOKED a little different from koreans, i wouldn't be mistaken to have mainland korean ideas all the time.
my new set of friends are a very interesting group. most of us are in various states of hapa-hood. that is.... mixed couples who will produce hapa babies or hapa datiing hapa, etc. and from seeing how they are, it reassures my anxieties that people were trying to fester by asking me what my children would be like.
they'd be happy, beautiful, intelligent people who will have less of a tendency to be myopic, close-minded and racist.
go hapa love! (or hybrid vigor, as my sweetie would call it)
Comments
>i would just like to take this moment to say to asian boys of this type....
Ken and I are writing a song for you.
I want the link to this guy's blog.
Posted by: metamanda | March 7, 2004 01:43 PM
hehe. i'll email it to you :)
Posted by: honeyfields | March 7, 2004 02:27 PM
asian boy, asian boy
looking for your asian toy
she cooks
she cleans
shes loves it
when you're mean
asian boy, asian boy,
looking for your asian toy
4.0
pre-med
she'll scream it
when you're in bed
asian boy, asian boy,
looking for your asian toy
Posted by: kwc | March 7, 2004 10:10 PM
gah...I just wrote up this very strong post about what I think about those that think we should stick to our own kind...but it got lost somehow...=( So here it is again =)
When I meet people like that...all I want to do is drag them out to the middle of the street and beat them like a red headed stepchild. But then I think to myself...well...they are intitled to think whatever they want to think. I think what I want and they can think what they want. I've heard some pretty stupid reasons (yet very bad) on why this "color" shouldn't date/marry this "color" and when I hear these things it infurrates me. But I hold my toung and chalk it up to them being narrow minded and if it doesn't hurt me or anybody else...why bother beating them to a bloody pulp? =) anyway...I support what you're saying here 110% You go gurl! =)
Posted by: Anonymous | March 8, 2004 06:30 AM
who was the last poster again? you didn't leave any info...
as for the song.... these types typically wish they were that smart (or at least think they are, they're just not trying as hard as they could) :)
Posted by: honeyfields | March 8, 2004 01:32 PM